byu culture struggles to maintain the outdated and patriarchal views that disguise feminine repression through seemingly selfless acts of self-proclaimed ‘gentlemen.’ while walking through campus, i do not see any damsels in distress. i see competent, intelligent, professional women that do not need a man to hold the door, pay for a date or even present a shiny ring in the traditional manner.
i have hands, thank you. i do not feel flattered when you awkwardly hold the door open for helpless little me. i also have money. women who allow men to pay for them on a date are prostituting their worth not only in the relationship, but also in a capitalistic society that strives to provide equal opportunities. our income is worth just as much as any man’s labor could produce. finally, i am equally capable of finding my own mate. my agency need not be stifled by the whim of a male who finally decides that i am worthy to be by his side. i, too, can take a knee; i too can afford a ring. do you want a princess cut or a solid band?
my fellow sisters in zion. do not be fooled into thinking that men wear the pants in the relationship. you can, too. not only are skirts a safety hazard, preventing you from running away from danger, but they are a symbol of your submissiveness. so, zip up the pants and assume your position next to the man – not behind him.
really, all i want to say about this is that i feel like by writing this, the author is saying that she views women as the weaker sex and that the only way to show we are not weak is to act like a man. false.
i like being feminine. when a guy holds the door open or pays for dinner, i see it as respectful, not demeaning. i like chivalry and i like being treated with respect. does that mean i’m not capable or competent? i don’t think so.